As a sex therapist, when I see a couple dissatisfied with their sex life, I know it’s not just the sex that’s lacking. Two of the things that just might be missing in the relationship are everyday passionate kisses and warm embraces. Hugs and kisses aren’t just for hellos and good-byes, and neither should they be reserved exclusively for sexual foreplay! They are powerful tools for connection and non-sexual intimacy. Kissing and hugging well, outside the bedroom, and apart from greetings, is vital to a healthy sexual relationship. When you kiss passionately or share a warm embrace, your brain releases the feel-good chemicals, oxytocin and dopamine. Oxytocin is a bonding hormone, and dopamine contributes to our feelings of pleasure and happiness. If you are concerned that your sex life is waning, or if you just want to give it an extra boost, try adding in daily hugs and kisses. I prescribe a 20 second embrace and a 3 second kiss every day. Let me know how this works for you!
-Aaron Bunker, LPC